I can't feel the meter when playing along very well, sometimes not at all. Note I can feel the "pulse" just fine. I have no problem tapping my foot to the beat in time but I can't feel where the one ...
I'll often hear tunes in which the first note is upbeat and the second is downbeat. When is it sycopation and when is it not? For one of many examples, take "Amazing Grace." The "A-" is a weak beat ...