If you're working alone, then there's no-one to pull you along, only your own perception of time against a rigid [& pretty boring] click.
I'd suggest working with others, or at least play along to records. Join a band of similar or hopefully slightly better ability.
One unspoken rule of local bands is that everyone is usually of about the same competence; anyone too good or too bad doesn't get to join, or doesn't stay long.
Once you're playing as a unit, you'll find there's a tendency to greater or lesser extent that you pull each other along & a groove is established. This isn't hard and fast, but there's a general rule that as a team you'll all meld your individual differences into one tighter unit.
I always think of ability to stay in a groove is similar to how well people can sing, as a bell-curve with a few exceptional ones at the top, a few hopeless ones at the bottom, but the majority scattered around the middle of the curve with general competence/ability. The more you play, the more you will learn to climb to the upper reaches of that curve. There's ability/talent, then there's practise. Neither alone will get you there.
Anecdotally, I used to dep for a function band on either drums or bass, if one of their players couldn't make a gig. The task tended to split about 50/50 between bass & drums. If I was playing bass I quite enjoyed it; their drummer was basic but competent & could carry a groove well, making the whole band swing along happily. If I had to dep on drums, however, it was a completely different tale. The bassist for some unfathomable reason had never figured out that the centre of his groove was when his finger let go of the string, not when it first contacted it. That meant he constantly dragged & I had to consciously force the beat ahead, all the time. That was draining.
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Watch the famous 'rushing or dragging' scene from Whiplash -
of course, this is a scripted power-play by one of the characters & 'not real', but I do love how the script is right every time. Before the shouting starts, Andrew first drags a couple of fills, then rushes one, before Fletcher pulls the band up. Once Fletcher starts shouting 'rushing/dragging' & making Andrew start over, each time he is correct. That must have taken many takes, but they got it right in the final cut.
I think it would be interesting to listen to this & see if you can tell when it rushes & when it drags. It's not easy. Most of the time it's very close, except in the really 'flustered' bit where he's nowhere near.