I'm not sure you'll achieve this completely in a 200-seater, because the sound of the kit itself in the room will still be fully audible even from the cheap seats at the back, unless you are a loud band.
Also, let's be honest, you're not going to be able to punch the compressor hard enough on a small gig to really get the snap at the front of each sound.
To be clear about what we are talking about, this is an electronic drum set:
There are other ways to generate sounds that function as drums in a music production, including drum machines and several different kinds of software. This answer will not be about those. For the sake of anyone curious and reading about this who does not know much about electronic ...
A short summary:
flanged hoops: cheap and popular. Their low mass produce rich
overtones which may lead to a headache when it comes to tuning.
die-cast hoops: really solid and easier to tune. Some say they
produce a "focused" sound, maybe because they kill most overtones.
wood hoops: produce a warmer sound on the drum. Probably in the
middle of flanged and ...
They are called "silent" for a reason! You should not expect to hear much more than the sticking when using these heads.
Tuning, in my experience, will only serve two purposes: adjusting the bounce (feel/responsiveness), and helping triggers accurately register.
It has been suggested that the best way to affect the pitch (faint though be) is to adjust the ...
Using Hot Rods would help a lot:
They feel a lot more like using drum sticks, than using brushes, but are much quieter. (I'm a big fan of getting "enthusiastic" young drummers I work with to use them, especially in small rehearsal spaces!)
I'm just going to add on to some of the already decent answers here. In your head you need to separate the idea that playing with energy means playing loud. Intensity and energy can happen even at very soft dynamics. But most importantly, I'm not sure you're asking the right question, it sounds like you want to find sticks or techniques that allow you to ...
Let me tackle this from the other end, as it were, after clarification that this is to get a drummer to "turn down" rather than needing reinforcement to provide to 'whoomf'.
This complements the other answer & can still be miked the same way, even if only to bring the sound forward to FoH, rather than fully amplify.
Bear in mind, I'm a sound ...
I'd be very very tempted to leave well alone & instead be extra careful about how they are stored.
I've never tried it [nor would I] but tung oil works by curing to a hard, impenetrable surface.
That to me implies it will totally change the resonance of the shells.
I get the feeling [with no substantiating evidence to back me up] that if the ...
There are some good answers for managing volume if you must use an acoustic kit. However in your question you also asked about an electronic kit (I'm not sure why they don't call them digital). I know you mentioned the absence of mic or speakers, but also mentioned a digital piano which means you will have speakers for the piano.
I have a band that plays ...
With smooth jazz drumming the key is to play silent but technical. If you are worried about overpowering the band, try using sticks that are lighter, it makes the cymbals have less sustain.
I would suggest some 8A sticks, regal tip or nylon tip. As you can see the 8A series are practically made for jazz. They are a significantly lighter stick and are ...
The items in the previous post I call bundle sticks, which is a good option, but I think they are still pretty loud. How about regular jazz brushes? These are VERY quiet. I have also put masking tape on the cymbals and the hi-hat cymbals as well. Using a pillow for the bass drum is a good idea.
First, understand that electronic drums main selling point is they aren't as loud as acoustic drums.
The common consensus is to use acoustic drums if you can.
Still, I have gotten noise complaints with electric kits in an apartment if there's someone underneath you who may be able to hear the kick pedal being stomped on.
Disadvantages of using electric ...
First, I wouldn't normally tune to perfect fourths or perfect fifths. Instead, I would look for the lowest resonance of the shell and start off tuning to that. From there, if I don't like the sound, I might tune up to the next resonance. Finding notes where the shell resonates helps you get the most sound and character out of the drum. This is why DW shells ...
Your typical drumstick is made of Hickory wood which neither that dense nor that light.
Maple is another popular wood for sticks but is lighter than Hickory.
Your best bet would be sticks made out of Oak, which is quite denser than Hickory and a lot denser than Maple; I know for sure Pro-Mark produces oak sticks that come in various specs and sizes.
You should try Vater's Fusion sticks (http://www.vater.com/#!/product/10) These have a longer shaft than most sticks and for thickness, they are between a 5A and 5B with a ball nylon tip. I find them to have the right balance for attack and speed.