Speaking as an occasional sound tech:
It's really unfortunate that the speaker cabinet and amp contribute to the particular sound of an electric guitar performance. We would much rather put you on a direct input to the board, so we aren't fighting you over relative volume levels.
One compromise (if we can't talk you into just plugging the guitar cable into our system) is to run the guitar thru your cabinet at a lower volume, have us put a mic in front of it to pick up the sound coming out of that. With either this approach or a DI, we return the sound to you in the monitors so you and the band can hear your instrument.
But some folks really want to feel their amp blasting away behind them. In that case, putting the cabinets at the back of the stage is the least worst solution. It will not directly cause feedback since only the guitar is going through that speaker. It will leak into the mics and make getting a clean mix difficult, and it will make it more difficult to give your bandmates good monitor levels without their feeding back, unless we can convince you to keep your amp down at a reasonable level. Again, the "turn it down and let us put a mic on it" approach is preferred.
If you insist on blasting your amp, we're going to have to turn everything else up to balance against it, and that gets painful for the audience, makes for muddy mixes, and generally doesn't serve you well. If you need more you in the monitors, ask us, don't crank it yourself.
So your band leader is wrong on the physics and acoustics, but there are some potential issues here. Let the sound tech help/advise you on this; it's their job to make you sound good as a group and make sure you can hear each other.
This is assuming you have someone running a separate sound reinforcement system rather than trying to use your cabinets as your entire sound reinforcement system. In that latter case, feedback could be an issue and you're just going to have to find a way to make things work.
(There are reasons I try not to mix for punk and related styles, and this complication is one of them. I'd be much happier if you folks would ditch the guitar amps and get the distortion and so on from pedalboards instead. But I'm very aware that I'm fighting the "this one goes to 11" mentality; folks don't like the idea that their old garage-band cabinet won't be there to support them.)