I like singing, and while I've got more comfortable with the sound of my voice over time, I still don't really like it, and I'm massively self-conscious about anybody hearing me sing. I'm so jealous of people who don't have great voices but have no qualms bursting into song mid-conversation.

I'd love to get objective feedback about my voice and abilities - I think it would make me more confident - but asking friends to listen to me sing, or even to recordings, is so embarrassing, so it's a bit of a catch-22.

Where or how might I find a way to show my singing to people - preferably strangers - who will give kind, constructive, but truthful feedback (it's no use my mum telling me I'm great, if I'm not).

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    close or not - try karaoke. It's low-expectancy. You won't get feedback, but you're unlikely to get any criticism whatsoever except people won't shut up to listen.
    – Tetsujin
    Commented Feb 5, 2015 at 14:03
  • There is a subreddit for this, but I can't recall the name.
    – user28
    Commented Feb 5, 2015 at 15:54
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    Your question is not a music one at all, it's a personal confidence one. Ask your friends, ask anyone - one you realise there will always be positive and negative comments and learn to cope with them you'll be better off.
    – Doktor Mayhem
    Commented Feb 5, 2015 at 19:36
  • It is a problem that many musicians face, but I suspect that the web is the worst place to start. Way worse than family friends or your Mom. A live audience is the best place to start learning to perform. Don't worry about what you are born with, you cant help that, worry about the performance.
    – amalgamate
    Commented Feb 5, 2015 at 19:55
  • Send me a recording to [email protected]. Commented Jan 12, 2017 at 6:56

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Have you tried a vocal teacher/coach? Find a good teacher who will be honest with you. Ask them to give you the honest truth, upfront. Also, they should be able to help you improve your singing as well, which will make your situation all the better.

Also, as you sing more and more in public, you should not only become more comfortable, but also a better singer. Continue to record yourself and listen, to find how you can continue to improve.


There are several ways to get more comfortable with the sound of your voice and get feedback. First, try Karaoke. Not sure where you live but I am sure there are venues which have Karaoke nights.

It was karaoke that made me realize I could sing better than average and started my journey into performing. It was the genuine feedback I got the first time I sang karaoke that made me aware that other folks thought I had a good voice and boosted my confidence.

So then I bought a karaoke machine and some CDG's and started singing at home which made me even better when I went to karaoke parties or karaoke nights at various venues.

This realization led me to learning guitar and later writing songs - but it all started with karaoke.

Another thing you can do if you are really brave, is post some video's of you singing on YouTube. Unless you disable comments - you will probably get feedback. Very honest feedback. Fortunately for me, I usually get good feedback on my voice. But once I tried to sing like an opera singer and I discovered how brutally honest the feedback on YouTube can be. I deleted that video! But if you get bad feedback on a particular performance, don't be discouraged. Try to learn from that experience and perhaps try a different song, or practice singing it differently or in a more comfortable key.

I don't know if they have Open Mic nights where you live, but they have those all over the U.S. - here is a link to a nationwide list (for those in the U.S.A.) [http://www.openmic.us/EventListing][1]

I regularly perform at open mics in my area and usually get feedback from the audience when I get off stage and sit back down. Folks will come up to me and say "good job man" or something like that. They don't come up to every performer - so I can tell that their compliments are genuine.

I have also learned that the more I sing in a "performance" situation, whether karaoke or open mic, the more comfortable I get singing and the better I get. I get more compliments now than I did when I first discovered that I could sing.

In your question you alluded to those who don't have great voices - but they don't let that stop them from singing. Don't worry so much about being a great singer. If you can sing and come close to staying in key - you are ahead of most. The main thing is to learn to enjoy singing without worrying so much about being on par with some of the greatest singers in the world.

Speaking of folks who don't have great voices - take Bob Dylan for example! A great song writer (true genius). He could have hired a professional studio vocalist to sing on his recordings, but he chose to sing them himself. Not to take anything away from Dylan as an artist, songwriter, and performer, but for me personally, his voice is a little harsh on most of the recordings I have heard (Lay, Lady Lay being a notable exception).

Most likely you already sound better than the great Bob Dylan. So sing early, sing late, sing often, and have fun singing whenever the opportunity presents itself.

  • I have such a similar experience to yours that after reading the first couple paragraphs I was worried that I had written this answer and then forgotten I'd written it! +1 for karaoke. A great way to hone singing and performance skills, gain comfort with being on stage, learn one's range, etc. Commented Aug 18, 2015 at 15:00

Have you thought about joining a choir? You may feel more comfortable singing in a group, will get support and feedback from the other choir singers and gain stage experience. There may even be an opportunity to sing a solo part. In my choir that is the case.


You will have great difficulty in getting a truthful assessment. Some will feel encouragement is the priority, some will prefer 'the painful truth' and will veer too far in the other direction - I'm afraid 'Pretty good overall' can easily get buried in a list of things that need improvement!

Get out there and perform. When you become a karaoke or open-mic 'regular' it will soon become apparent what the audience think. And, of course, the real proof comes when you're offered your first paid job!


Singing Carrots are offering feedback from professional vocal coaches on your singing recording

It's not free, but you will get a comprehensive analysis and will not have to be worried about exposing yourself. You can submit an audio recording anonymously.

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    Commented Apr 13, 2021 at 11:10

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