I am rhythm guitarist in a 5-piece band. We play mostly rock/folk and are currently writing our own songs. One song is supposed to have a significant tempo change for the last verse where it gets slower and all instruments play more laid back and fade into the background. When we rehearse, it does get sloppy but we kinda struggle through. But for recording that song, we decided to keep the tempo to not throw ourselves off.
We do not want to use a click track, because it does not suit our style. Our cajon player is not a trained percussionist but a guitarist (at least originally). Is it his job to dictate the tempo change? But how does he announce the new tempo? The tempo change is immediate, i.e. no instrument pauses to realign with the new tempo.
So, how are tempo changes in songs usually handled in bands (live and recording)?